Natalie Vartanian On Owning Her Sexuality and Exploring Polyamory

Today I welcome a podcast colleague, friend, relationship advisor/coach and personal tarot interpreter Natalie Vartanian. After appearing on Natalie’s new podcast Taboo and Turn On, I wanted to return the favor and feature her as a guest on NOL. We threw around some possible topics to discuss, and we decided on a hot one for Natalie, i.e. owning your sexuality and giving yourself the freedom to explore it. Personally, exploring her sexuality has led her to polyamory, which she explains in the show.

We discuss what it means to own your sexuality, some myths associated with expressing it (especially as a woman), why polyamory is good for some people but not for others, and a lot more.

Natalie is a certified life coach, relationship expert, business strategist, writer, and speaker/teacher. Her mission is to inspire people to dream big and take the risks to have it all and live a turned on life. She has worked with women from across 5 continents to help them get the sex lives and the relationships they want, in addition to connecting to their passion work in the world and building business that make a difference in a way that feels fun, easy, and alive. Her work has been featured in elephant journal, YourTango, and Good Men Project. She is the host of the podcast, Taboo and Turn On, and previously co-hosted Sex the Podcast. Natalie is working on self publishing her first book about her sexual escapades and revolutions, slated to come out early 2018. You can get on the waiting list for her book’s release by going to www.sexmoneygodbook.com.

To find out more about Natalie, go to www.thisturnedonlife.com.

Natalie’s Podcast: www.tabooandturnon.com

Book Waiting List: www.sexmoneygodbook.com

Instagram: www.instagram.com/thisturnedonlife

Facebook: www.facebook.com/thisturnedonlife

Dr. LeslieBeth Wish Discusses Incest and Its Long-Term Effects On Survivors

Dr. LeslieBeth Wish joins NOL to share important information about incest and to provide resources for incest survivors.

Dr. Wish earned her Doctorate in Adult Developmental Psychology from the University of Massachusetts-Amherst. She also earned a masters degree in Clinical Social Work and Management from Bryn Mawr College, and a masters degree in English Literature from Ohio University. Her three-year post-graduate training in Family and Marital Systems is from Georgetown University’s Family Center, under the esteemed Dr. Murray Bowen. She earned her undergraduate degree in both History and English from Carnegie-Mellon University. She lived and studied family and childcare practices in Moscow, Russia, during the Soviet Communist years.

Her work as the Clinical Director of the New England Institute of Family Relations, the first sexual dysfunction clinic in New England, and her research-based book, Incest, Work and Women, earned her national esteem as a pioneer in sexual dysfunction and women’s love and career issues.

She is quoted widely in national magazines such as Shape and Self, and websites such as www.bustle.com. She appears regularly on This Week in America and is a feature writer for www.digitalromanceinc.com and www.personalgrowth.com.

Her website www.lovevictory.com has been named as one of the top 101 websites to watch.

We discuss:

1. The prevalence of sexual abuse
2. Why people don’t report it
3. Why parents often stay in denial about it
4. Why sexual abuse in families starts
5. Why sibling sexual play is often discounted
6. What Genetic Sexual Attraction is
7. Signs that a child might be being abused
8. Long-term effects of early abuse that show up in adulthood, e.g. drug or alcohol abuse, self-injury or suicide attempts, gambling, overeating, fear of emotional intimacy, career issues and more
9. When relatives say it’s consensual
10. How Dr. Wish works with her patients to work through the trauma by developing emotional bravery and use their intuition
11. How to work through trauma when you have to see and interact with the person who abused you often, as part of family activities
12. Visit APA.org for a therapist if you are seeking help in your area or contact Dr. Wish via her website www.lovevictory.com.

And last but not least, here are the links for her two books:

Smart Relationships: How Successful Women Can Find True Love

The Love Adventures of Almost Smart Cookie

 

Londin Angel Winters and Justin Patrick Pierce On Using Sexual Polarity To Get the Love You Want

Have you ever wondered why you keep attracting the wrong types of people or just can’t seem to keep the sexual spark alive in your long-term relationship or marriage? Well, maybe the answer is in sexual polarity. When I reached out to David Deida’s office seeking a sexual polarity expert, I was thrilled to hear from Londin Angel Winters and to experience her personal passion for the topic. In this episode, her life partner, Justin Patrick Pierce joins her to share the art and science of attracting the right partner and creating the relationship of your dreams.

Londin and Justin are intimate partners, business partners, and co-teachers of an experience they created, called the Yoga of Intimacy. Each with a professional background in exercise science, and trained in the esoteric art of sexual yoga, Londin & Justin offer a unique perspective that unites the science of the body with the mindfulness of deep, spiritual practice. They facilitate workshops and teach clients from around the world in the art of sacred loving. Their mission is to help each and every person to realize their deepest purpose and claim a life of unbounded love. Workshop dates and information can be found at www.LondinAngelWinters.com. The “flow” of our talk:

1. How Londin and Justin met and why their 14-year age difference means nothing because of the intimacy/yoga sexual practice they have together

2. What polarity is and why it’s so powerful

3. Examples of both feminine and masculine behaviors and how we all carry both energies in us

4. Why “friend zone” happens

5. How to discover your core essence through examination of your purpose and also how you feel about love and connection

6. Londin teaches us the concept of “energetic agility”, or moving back and forth easily between the feminine and masculine and how to “polarize the moment”

7. Simple, quick things you can do to fall into your feminine or masculine energy

8. Justin explains the three stages of masculine sexuality

9. The behavior of a man who is a “flowster”

10. Things a man can do to get his woman out of her masculine and back into her feminine, or to polarize her

11. Why it’s important to use this knowledge in a loving, spiritual way

12. For the ladies – how to attract a man who will truly claim you and inspire his masculinity

13. All about Yoga of Intimacy and what it entails

14. Why it’s scary work and why it’s not for everyone…BUT how awesome it can be when you have the right person to be vulnerable with

15. Upcoming events that Londin and Justin are offering

As always, please visit the www.ladyfoxentertainment.com/resourcespartners page for even more intimacy, love and sexual health products and services just for NOL listeners!

Dr. Michael Aaron On His Book ‘Modern Sexuality – The Truth About Sex and Relationships’

Michael Aaron, PhD, LCSW, CST, is a nationally certified sex therapist and clinical sexologist, specializing in working with sexual minorities, alternative/kink/polyamory lifestyles, sex workers, discordant desire and infidelity in couples, sexual dysfunction and anxiety, gender orientation confusion, and sexual compulsivity.  He is certified as a sex therapist by AASECT and is a Diplomate of the American Board of Sexology.  He has been interviewed in numerous media outlets, podcasts and magazines, including the NYT, WSJ, Cosmo, Men’s Health, Women’s Health, Men’s Fitness, Prevention, and Vice.com.  He is a member of the Advisory Board of Men’s Fitness magazine and is the author of the book “Modern Sexuality, The Truth About Sex and Relationships“, where he presents an overwhelmingly strong case for sexual diversity and the exploration of a variety of sexual expressions from a normative standpoint, helping readers understand that their own desires and those of others can happily exist on the same continuum.

In this episode, we talk about the societal myths of sexuality, including:

  1.  the false belief that sexuality is learned and can be changed,
  2.  that non-normative sexual behavior is pathological,
  3. that healthy sexuality involves intimacy,
  4. that intimacy is easily defined and mean the same to everyone, and
  5. that sexual behavior must have a clearly defined purpose.

We also discuss:

  • harm reduction
  • epigenetics
  • BDSM
  • fetishes
  • partialisms
  • polyamory
  • the darker aspects of psychotherapy when it comes to homosexuality
  • Dr. Aaron’s opinion on the book and movie ’50 Shades of Grey’
  • mismatched desire in couples…and a lot more.

Dr. Aaron is so awesome…I seriously dig this man’s passion for his work, and he’s hot to boot!  There aren’t many progressive sexologists like him out in the world, so if you have questions or would like to work with him, please connect with him today.

Buy his book now by visiting Amazon.com or his website at www.drmichaelaaronnyc.com

 

Allen Berger, PhD On Love Secrets Revealed

In this episode of NOL, internationally-known clinical psychologist Dr. Allen Berger dives into the myths and realities of relationships, and he shares what happy couples know about having deep intimacy and a lasting connection.

Show Notes

Learn more about Dr. AB on his website: www.abphd.com

Connect with Dr. AB on Twitter:  @ABPHD

Get the book “Love Secrets Revealed” here: https://www.amazon.com/Love-Secrets-Revealed-Intimacy-Connection/dp/0757303978

Dana B. Myers of Booty Parlor On How To Reignite Romance

Dana B. Myers, product developer, entrepreneur, media personality and founder of Booty Parlor, the sexy lifestyle brand, shares tantalizing tips on increasing relationship intimacy and reigniting the romance!  Listen to this episode and get your groove back!

Show Notes

http://www.danabmyers.com

www.bootyparlor.com

To purchase her Mojo Makeover book:  https://www.amazon.com/Official-Booty-Parlor-Mojo-Makeover-ebook/dp/B004G60162?ie=UTF8&keywords=the%20mojo%20makeover&qid=1463886336&ref_=sr_1_1&sr=8-1

For additional sex & intimacy resources, visit http://www.ladyfoxentertainment.com/resourcespartners/

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