Dr. LeslieBeth Wish Discusses Incest and Its Long-Term Effects On Survivors

Dr. LeslieBeth Wish joins NOL to share important information about incest and to provide resources for incest survivors.

Dr. Wish earned her Doctorate in Adult Developmental Psychology from the University of Massachusetts-Amherst. She also earned a masters degree in Clinical Social Work and Management from Bryn Mawr College, and a masters degree in English Literature from Ohio University. Her three-year post-graduate training in Family and Marital Systems is from Georgetown University’s Family Center, under the esteemed Dr. Murray Bowen. She earned her undergraduate degree in both History and English from Carnegie-Mellon University. She lived and studied family and childcare practices in Moscow, Russia, during the Soviet Communist years.

Her work as the Clinical Director of the New England Institute of Family Relations, the first sexual dysfunction clinic in New England, and her research-based book, Incest, Work and Women, earned her national esteem as a pioneer in sexual dysfunction and women’s love and career issues.

She is quoted widely in national magazines such as Shape and Self, and websites such as www.bustle.com. She appears regularly on This Week in America and is a feature writer for www.digitalromanceinc.com and www.personalgrowth.com.

Her website www.lovevictory.com has been named as one of the top 101 websites to watch.

We discuss:

1. The prevalence of sexual abuse
2. Why people don’t report it
3. Why parents often stay in denial about it
4. Why sexual abuse in families starts
5. Why sibling sexual play is often discounted
6. What Genetic Sexual Attraction is
7. Signs that a child might be being abused
8. Long-term effects of early abuse that show up in adulthood, e.g. drug or alcohol abuse, self-injury or suicide attempts, gambling, overeating, fear of emotional intimacy, career issues and more
9. When relatives say it’s consensual
10. How Dr. Wish works with her patients to work through the trauma by developing emotional bravery and use their intuition
11. How to work through trauma when you have to see and interact with the person who abused you often, as part of family activities
12. Visit APA.org for a therapist if you are seeking help in your area or contact Dr. Wish via her website www.lovevictory.com.

And last but not least, here are the links for her two books:

Smart Relationships: How Successful Women Can Find True Love

The Love Adventures of Almost Smart Cookie

 

Londin Angel Winters and Justin Patrick Pierce On Using Sexual Polarity To Get the Love You Want

Have you ever wondered why you keep attracting the wrong types of people or just can’t seem to keep the sexual spark alive in your long-term relationship or marriage? Well, maybe the answer is in sexual polarity. When I reached out to David Deida’s office seeking a sexual polarity expert, I was thrilled to hear from Londin Angel Winters and to experience her personal passion for the topic. In this episode, her life partner, Justin Patrick Pierce joins her to share the art and science of attracting the right partner and creating the relationship of your dreams.

Londin and Justin are intimate partners, business partners, and co-teachers of an experience they created, called the Yoga of Intimacy. Each with a professional background in exercise science, and trained in the esoteric art of sexual yoga, Londin & Justin offer a unique perspective that unites the science of the body with the mindfulness of deep, spiritual practice. They facilitate workshops and teach clients from around the world in the art of sacred loving. Their mission is to help each and every person to realize their deepest purpose and claim a life of unbounded love. Workshop dates and information can be found at www.LondinAngelWinters.com. The “flow” of our talk:

1. How Londin and Justin met and why their 14-year age difference means nothing because of the intimacy/yoga sexual practice they have together

2. What polarity is and why it’s so powerful

3. Examples of both feminine and masculine behaviors and how we all carry both energies in us

4. Why “friend zone” happens

5. How to discover your core essence through examination of your purpose and also how you feel about love and connection

6. Londin teaches us the concept of “energetic agility”, or moving back and forth easily between the feminine and masculine and how to “polarize the moment”

7. Simple, quick things you can do to fall into your feminine or masculine energy

8. Justin explains the three stages of masculine sexuality

9. The behavior of a man who is a “flowster”

10. Things a man can do to get his woman out of her masculine and back into her feminine, or to polarize her

11. Why it’s important to use this knowledge in a loving, spiritual way

12. For the ladies – how to attract a man who will truly claim you and inspire his masculinity

13. All about Yoga of Intimacy and what it entails

14. Why it’s scary work and why it’s not for everyone…BUT how awesome it can be when you have the right person to be vulnerable with

15. Upcoming events that Londin and Justin are offering

As always, please visit the www.ladyfoxentertainment.com/resourcespartners page for even more intimacy, love and sexual health products and services just for NOL listeners!

Amanda La Fatale, Domina and Fetish Life Coach, On Her Passion For Kink

Mistress Amanda La Fatale is a working Latina kinkster who has a deep passion for BDSM.  She resides in the Bronx and has been living within this lifestyle in NYC for the past 10+ years. She is also transitioning toward becoming a fetish life coach, as her mission is to help others accept themselves and introduce them to their personal wants & desires within a healthy environment.

She is currently on a BDSM world tour whereby she visits major cities and countries to learn about their various levels of sexual expression across the world, and to spread knowledge of the health & acceptance of BDSM practices.
The final result of this tour will be a documentary to help purge society from Suppression of Sexual Expression within the BDSM realm.

Note:  Domina is a Latin word which means ‘Mistress’.

WEBSITE:  http://amandalafatale.com/

Instagram/Twitter/Fetlife:  @AmandaLaFatale

We talk about:

  • At what age she knew she was into kink
  • How she discovered the community and started working in it
  • Her views on how society views BDSM
  • Releasing shame about being into kink
  • Benefits of BDSM
  • How the general myths about BDSM are perceived by her as the Dom
  • How she meets with her clients for the first time
  • How a session with her generally goes
  • Safety tips
  • Types of play and her favorites to do with her clients
  • Best forms of play for a newcomer
  • Feminization BDSM, aka Sissy Training
  • Erotic Hypnotism
  • Her world tour to explore how other countries view and live BDSM

 

Michal Daveed of The Eulenspiegel Society (TES) Shares Info on BDSM Classes, Play Etiquette and More

Michal Daveed is the Media Representative for The Eulenspiegel Society (TES), the oldest BDSM community in the United States. She also teaches classes at TES and elsewhere on kink, particularly about erotic hypnosis.  Personally, she is a New York-based submissive who has been in the BDSM Scene for about four years. In her vanilla life, she is a writer.

In this very informative episode, we talk about:

  • the history of TES and how membership works,
  • the myths about BDSM
  • the community and who is typically attracted to it
  • the types of classes they offer (caning, anyone?),
  • social events such as munches,
  • how to find a play partner you trust,
  • negotiating play
  • play/scene etiquette,
  • safe words,
  • erotic hypnotism
  • the emotional value of being part of the community
  • how kink can be a creative expression

Midori, Adventurous Sexuality Educator and Author, Demystifies BDSM

Midori is a renowned educator and writer on sexuality. Dubbed “the super nova of kink” by Dan Savage, she emerged from the Sex Positive Movement in San Francisco in the early 1990’s, soon becoming a much sought after international presenter on sexuality, personal fulfillment and kinky adventures. Her reputation as authority and leading expert on alternative pleasures stem not only from her unique and entertaining process of teaching concrete skills, but in her ability to deconstruct and distill complex matters of desire into surprisingly accessible lessons with eloquence and humanity. She’s known for tackling challenging topics with fresh and relevant insights. She calls this her “head-heart-hands” method to create a space where people are allowed individual self-exploration. Fundamentally she is motivated by helping people to create authentic and intimate relationships while emphasizing self actualization, shame reduction, acceptance and justice.

Her writing is extensive, ranging from numerous articles, columns, works of fiction, to instructional books. She is the author of The Seductive Art of Japanese Bondage, Wild Side Sex, and Master Han’s Daughter.

She leads transformative small group intensives, including Rope Dojo ®, ForteFemme: Women’s Dominance Weekend Intensive and Make Hot Play Happen

When she’s not traveling and teaching, she’s creating provocative and haunting art and performances.

In this show, Midori redefines the acronym BDSM to make it more accessible and useful for the listeners. We also discuss things like topping and bottoming, so be sure to tune in.

Check out all the ways to connect with Midori…

www.FHP-inc.com 

www.RopeDojo.com  

www.ForteFemme.com   

www.MakeHotPlayHappen.com

Facebook / Twitter / Instagram / Vimeo: @PlanetMidori

FetLife: Midori

And please support her fight against HIV! She volunteers for AIDS LifeCycle.     www.tofighthiv.org/goto/midori

If you’d like Midori to come back on the show again to go into depth about Japanese bondage, please send a message to michelle@ladyfoxentertainment.com

Dr. Michael Aaron On His Book ‘Modern Sexuality – The Truth About Sex and Relationships’

Michael Aaron, PhD, LCSW, CST, is a nationally certified sex therapist and clinical sexologist, specializing in working with sexual minorities, alternative/kink/polyamory lifestyles, sex workers, discordant desire and infidelity in couples, sexual dysfunction and anxiety, gender orientation confusion, and sexual compulsivity.  He is certified as a sex therapist by AASECT and is a Diplomate of the American Board of Sexology.  He has been interviewed in numerous media outlets, podcasts and magazines, including the NYT, WSJ, Cosmo, Men’s Health, Women’s Health, Men’s Fitness, Prevention, and Vice.com.  He is a member of the Advisory Board of Men’s Fitness magazine and is the author of the book “Modern Sexuality, The Truth About Sex and Relationships“, where he presents an overwhelmingly strong case for sexual diversity and the exploration of a variety of sexual expressions from a normative standpoint, helping readers understand that their own desires and those of others can happily exist on the same continuum.

In this episode, we talk about the societal myths of sexuality, including:

  1.  the false belief that sexuality is learned and can be changed,
  2.  that non-normative sexual behavior is pathological,
  3. that healthy sexuality involves intimacy,
  4. that intimacy is easily defined and mean the same to everyone, and
  5. that sexual behavior must have a clearly defined purpose.

We also discuss:

  • harm reduction
  • epigenetics
  • BDSM
  • fetishes
  • partialisms
  • polyamory
  • the darker aspects of psychotherapy when it comes to homosexuality
  • Dr. Aaron’s opinion on the book and movie ’50 Shades of Grey’
  • mismatched desire in couples…and a lot more.

Dr. Aaron is so awesome…I seriously dig this man’s passion for his work, and he’s hot to boot!  There aren’t many progressive sexologists like him out in the world, so if you have questions or would like to work with him, please connect with him today.

Buy his book now by visiting Amazon.com or his website at www.drmichaelaaronnyc.com

 

Sex Therapist Vanessa Marin Dishes On the Female Orgasm

Vanessa Marin joins NOL to discard any taboos associated with talking openly about sex, and she specifically tackles myths surrounding female orgasms, in her role as a sex therapist.

 

Show Notes

To sign up for Vanessa’s newsletter, visit her website:

www.vmtherapy.com

Free Workshop about female orgasms on her home page.

Special discount for NOL listeners – – – > Get $100 off her “Finishing School” (How To Orgasm) program by using the code NOL at checkout!  Go to www.vmtherapy.com/how-to-orgasm

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Dana B. Myers of Booty Parlor On How To Reignite Romance

Dana B. Myers, product developer, entrepreneur, media personality and founder of Booty Parlor, the sexy lifestyle brand, shares tantalizing tips on increasing relationship intimacy and reigniting the romance!  Listen to this episode and get your groove back!

Show Notes

http://www.danabmyers.com

www.bootyparlor.com

To purchase her Mojo Makeover book:  https://www.amazon.com/Official-Booty-Parlor-Mojo-Makeover-ebook/dp/B004G60162?ie=UTF8&keywords=the%20mojo%20makeover&qid=1463886336&ref_=sr_1_1&sr=8-1

For additional sex & intimacy resources, visit http://www.ladyfoxentertainment.com/resourcespartners/

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Coming Up Next on NOL – Dana B. Myers, Founder of Booty Parlor

Coming up next on NOL…Has your relationship lost the love and you and your partner are having too many scheduled, obligatory and unfulfilling quickies?  Maybe you’re just not attracted to your partner anymore.  My guest Dana B. Myers has the solution, as she shares tantalizing tips on how the two of you can get your groove back!

Cindy Gallop of MakeLoveNotPorn Explains Why Porn Isn’t A Problem – Society Is

NOL guest Cindy Gallop, activist and entrepreneur, explains in this provocative episode why porn isn’t a problem, society is, and how her startup called MakeLoveNotPorn plans to disrupt the way we look at and talk about sex on a supremely grand scale.

 

Show Notes

www.makelovenotporn.com

www.ifwerantheworld.com

 

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