Lisa Schoenthal – Is It Love or a Love Lesson?

The wonderful Lisa Schoenthal and I recorded this episode of NOL way back in May, and it felt right to release it this Thanksgiving weekend.  Listen as Lisa and I talk about the awesome, huge subject of *love*, with a focus on determining whether it’s really love or just a love lesson along the way.

Lisa’s bio:

Lisa is a lifestyle and relationship mentor, certified health and wellness coach, and yoga instructor who is accessible and warm. Dedicated to empowering others, Lisa has created inspiring programs to promote personal growth with passion and communities with purpose. She incorporates mindfulness, movement, and nutrition into her group and individual coaching, seminars and travel adventures. I’ve personally called up Lisa when I’ve hit crossroads with my relationships, and her advice has been invaluable to me along the way.  She’s so awesome, and I know you’ll love her too.

Lisa authored the book “The Men We Meet – 15 Key Lessons Learned In Love”.  You may recall her generosity in giving 10 free copies of this book as part of my NOL launch swag promotion back in July, and for those of you who won the book, I encourage you to read it if you haven’t already!  For those of you who weren’t swag winners, you can get a copy of Lisa’s book on either Kindle or paperback here:

The Men We Meet – 15 Key Lessons Learned In Love

And of course, you can connect with Lisa at

Show Notes:

In this episode, we discuss:

– Lisa’s definition of love
– Humanness and Spirit
– Seeking out the blessings in unfortunate situations
– Why we attract the wrong partners and how to gain more awareness
– How others are mirrors that we can use to see ourselves
– Real love vs. a love lesson relationship
– Using intuition and gut instincts about relationships
– Establishing your own “deal breakers”
– Asking qualifying questions of a potential partner
– How long to wait after a breakup before dating again
– The courting process and attraction
– Mistakes women tend to make because of a natural instinct to nurture
– Co-creating with a partner
– The challenges of platonic relationships that also have romantic inclinations

In-episode mention:

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Wess Haubrich On Art as a Catharsis

Wess Haubrich, a self-trained visual artist and photographer from Quincy, IL, joins NOL to share how expressing emotions through art can effectively manage anxiety, depression and chronic migraines…all without medications.  He shares his journey through mood swings, depression, chronic pain and an addiction to Dilaudid, how he kicked it, and how anyone – even those who think they aren’t artistic – can take real control over their own addictions, depression and/or anxiety through art.

Wess and I discuss:

  • his influences of film noir, crime scene photography, gothic literature, southern gothic
  • what art brut is, and the advantages of self-training vs. formal art education
  • understanding the rights you have to your art and successfully promoting your art
  • his experience with the 12-step program for his former addiction
  • his natural foray into film making

I really enjoyed this conversation with Wess, and I hope it gets you thinking about the healing power of art too.

To view and/or purchase Wess’ incredible work, please visit his website at:

And if anyone would like to purchase one of those awesome cashmere scarves with Wess’ art on them, please do.  FYI, I’m open to surprise cashmere holiday gifts 🙂

Pre-roll mentions:

iTunes has submission deadlines with the holidays coming up, which means there will be delays with upcoming NOL episodes in terms of how quickly they push out to those of you who use IOS devices or apps.  The content will not stop!  So, even if you notice that new episodes aren’t showing up on your phone or iPad every Sunday night as usual, you can still access the latest at  They’ll show up on iTunes within a few days or so…

Also, do you want financial freedom and the chance to enjoy your life, rather than staying attached to your cubicle or office?  Then check out how to start your own Amazon business and quit a day job you hate!  For more info, please visit the Resources page of my website and click on “Reliable Education”, led by the amazing Adam Hudson:

There are FREE LIVE WEBINARS coming up THIS WEDNESDAY NIGHT 11/23/16, if you’d like more info from Adam himself.  Check for your time zone here:

Damien Horne On His Journey of Hope – From Homeless to Rising Music Star

This week we turn to music, one of my favorite topics, with the incredible Damien Horne. His manager reached out to me shortly after the NOL launch, and when I heard his story, I was super excited to get him on the show. Damien’s story is impactful, not only for hopeful musicians, but for anyone who needs a boost of motivation and inspiration! 

Damien has a way of making everyone feel special, and it’s because he believes they are. Damien has a real knack for tapping into people’s gifts and talents and inspiring them to reach their fullest potential. In fact, if you were to ask Damien what his purpose in life is, that’s probably what he’d say: to make others believe that they can fulfill their own purpose in this world. Whether it’s through his songs, his public speaking platform or simply via a one-on-one conversation, you’ll walk away from him feeling like anything is possible.

Damien’s credentials are loaded. Although he was homeless in two different cities (LA and Nashville), he has shared the stage with the likes of everyone from Faith Hill and Big & Rich to Robert Randolph and John Legend. He’s landed publishing deals with Big Love and Warner Chapel. He was also a part of a country music trio The Farm that was signed to Warner Brothers. During their stint, they had two charting singles. “Home Sweet Home” (Billboard Top 20) and “Be Grateful” (Billboard Top 40).

When Damien’s not on the road as an artist, he’s working alongside The Salvation Army and Boys & Girls Club to share his story of being one of 12 children, the first to graduate from high school and avoiding being a victim of the streets. One of his latest projects is It’s a weekly blog that showcases people who are doing their part to make the world a better place. It’s an online platform that complements what he’s currently focused on: his single and personal motto “Shine” and his upcoming one man show with the same name. Stay tuned.



Get his EP, The Love Saga, Vol. 1 at:


Amanda La Fatale, Domina and Fetish Life Coach, On Her Passion For Kink

Mistress Amanda La Fatale is a working Latina kinkster who has a deep passion for BDSM.  She resides in the Bronx and has been living within this lifestyle in NYC for the past 10+ years. She is also transitioning toward becoming a fetish life coach, as her mission is to help others accept themselves and introduce them to their personal wants & desires within a healthy environment.

She is currently on a BDSM world tour whereby she visits major cities and countries to learn about their various levels of sexual expression across the world, and to spread knowledge of the health & acceptance of BDSM practices.
The final result of this tour will be a documentary to help purge society from Suppression of Sexual Expression within the BDSM realm.

Note:  Domina is a Latin word which means ‘Mistress’.


Instagram/Twitter/Fetlife:  @AmandaLaFatale

We talk about:

  • At what age she knew she was into kink
  • How she discovered the community and started working in it
  • Her views on how society views BDSM
  • Releasing shame about being into kink
  • Benefits of BDSM
  • How the general myths about BDSM are perceived by her as the Dom
  • How she meets with her clients for the first time
  • How a session with her generally goes
  • Safety tips
  • Types of play and her favorites to do with her clients
  • Best forms of play for a newcomer
  • Feminization BDSM, aka Sissy Training
  • Erotic Hypnotism
  • Her world tour to explore how other countries view and live BDSM


Michal Daveed of The Eulenspiegel Society (TES) Shares Info on BDSM Classes, Play Etiquette and More

Michal Daveed is the Media Representative for The Eulenspiegel Society (TES), the oldest BDSM community in the United States. She also teaches classes at TES and elsewhere on kink, particularly about erotic hypnosis.  Personally, she is a New York-based submissive who has been in the BDSM Scene for about four years. In her vanilla life, she is a writer.

In this very informative episode, we talk about:

  • the history of TES and how membership works,
  • the myths about BDSM
  • the community and who is typically attracted to it
  • the types of classes they offer (caning, anyone?),
  • social events such as munches,
  • how to find a play partner you trust,
  • negotiating play
  • play/scene etiquette,
  • safe words,
  • erotic hypnotism
  • the emotional value of being part of the community
  • how kink can be a creative expression

Midori, Adventurous Sexuality Educator and Author, Demystifies BDSM

Midori is a renowned educator and writer on sexuality. Dubbed “the super nova of kink” by Dan Savage, she emerged from the Sex Positive Movement in San Francisco in the early 1990’s, soon becoming a much sought after international presenter on sexuality, personal fulfillment and kinky adventures. Her reputation as authority and leading expert on alternative pleasures stem not only from her unique and entertaining process of teaching concrete skills, but in her ability to deconstruct and distill complex matters of desire into surprisingly accessible lessons with eloquence and humanity. She’s known for tackling challenging topics with fresh and relevant insights. She calls this her “head-heart-hands” method to create a space where people are allowed individual self-exploration. Fundamentally she is motivated by helping people to create authentic and intimate relationships while emphasizing self actualization, shame reduction, acceptance and justice.

Her writing is extensive, ranging from numerous articles, columns, works of fiction, to instructional books. She is the author of The Seductive Art of Japanese Bondage, Wild Side Sex, and Master Han’s Daughter.

She leads transformative small group intensives, including Rope Dojo ®, ForteFemme: Women’s Dominance Weekend Intensive and Make Hot Play Happen

When she’s not traveling and teaching, she’s creating provocative and haunting art and performances.

In this show, Midori redefines the acronym BDSM to make it more accessible and useful for the listeners. We also discuss things like topping and bottoming, so be sure to tune in.

Check out all the ways to connect with Midori…

Facebook / Twitter / Instagram / Vimeo: @PlanetMidori

FetLife: Midori

And please support her fight against HIV! She volunteers for AIDS LifeCycle.

If you’d like Midori to come back on the show again to go into depth about Japanese bondage, please send a message to

Dr. Michael Aaron On His Book ‘Modern Sexuality – The Truth About Sex and Relationships’

Michael Aaron, PhD, LCSW, CST, is a nationally certified sex therapist and clinical sexologist, specializing in working with sexual minorities, alternative/kink/polyamory lifestyles, sex workers, discordant desire and infidelity in couples, sexual dysfunction and anxiety, gender orientation confusion, and sexual compulsivity.  He is certified as a sex therapist by AASECT and is a Diplomate of the American Board of Sexology.  He has been interviewed in numerous media outlets, podcasts and magazines, including the NYT, WSJ, Cosmo, Men’s Health, Women’s Health, Men’s Fitness, Prevention, and  He is a member of the Advisory Board of Men’s Fitness magazine and is the author of the book “Modern Sexuality, The Truth About Sex and Relationships“, where he presents an overwhelmingly strong case for sexual diversity and the exploration of a variety of sexual expressions from a normative standpoint, helping readers understand that their own desires and those of others can happily exist on the same continuum.

In this episode, we talk about the societal myths of sexuality, including:

  1.  the false belief that sexuality is learned and can be changed,
  2.  that non-normative sexual behavior is pathological,
  3. that healthy sexuality involves intimacy,
  4. that intimacy is easily defined and mean the same to everyone, and
  5. that sexual behavior must have a clearly defined purpose.

We also discuss:

  • harm reduction
  • epigenetics
  • BDSM
  • fetishes
  • partialisms
  • polyamory
  • the darker aspects of psychotherapy when it comes to homosexuality
  • Dr. Aaron’s opinion on the book and movie ’50 Shades of Grey’
  • mismatched desire in couples…and a lot more.

Dr. Aaron is so awesome…I seriously dig this man’s passion for his work, and he’s hot to boot!  There aren’t many progressive sexologists like him out in the world, so if you have questions or would like to work with him, please connect with him today.

Buy his book now by visiting or his website at